Man Became Woman, Became Man - Now Advocates Against Sex Changes
A millionaire in London who had a sex change in the 1980s decided after seven years that he hated being a woman, so he changed back--and now he’s on a mission to dissuade others from transitioning.
Charles Kane, nee Samantha Kane, nee Sam Hashimi, is happily engaged to a woman now, reported British newspaper the Daily Mail on Nov. 8, but after his first gender transition in 1987 he had a brief engagement to a man. Life as a woman did not agree with Kane--who at the time was known as Samantha Kane--because, the Mail reported, Kane "hated the way female hormones made him moody and emotional. Shopping bored him and sex was a disappointment."
In 2005, Kane went in for the surgeries needed to return her to her former male physiology. He then experienced rejection from the women he attempted to court, until he met fiancée Victoria, who told the paper that, "unlike other men... he truly understands women’s needs."
Kane also addressed this, telling the Daily Mail, "I keep Samantha in a little compartment in my brain, which I occasionally visit when I want to understand how Victoria is feeling." Added Kane, "Before, when I was Sam Hashimi, if a woman tried to talk to me about her emotions she may as well have been speaking to a Martian.
"Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and I’m in the unique position of having taken a very long trip to Venus before returning to Mars," Kane quipped.
"My father Peter is a very open-minded person, and so is my mother, Coral, because my older brother Matthew is openly gay," Victoria told the newspaper. "When I told them about Charles, they went: ’Oh, right, that’s interesting.’ "
Kane attributes his initial desire to transition to the trauma of his first marriage ending and the separation from his children that followed. But now, Kane says of his 24-year-old son, "We get on very well and my son, having been confused by my sex change, is now very accepting of me. He is a great guy and looks just like me?.?.?.? when I was Sam Hashimi."
Kane has decided that transitioning was the wrong choice for him--and he’s convinced that it’s wrong for others, as well. "Based on my own experiences, I believe sex-change operations should not be allowed, and certainly not on the NHS," he told the Daily Mail. "People who think they are a woman trapped in a male body are, in my opinion, completely deluded. I certainly was. I needed counseling, not a sex-change operation."