Man Became Woman, Became Man - Now Advocates Against Sex Changes
A millionaire in London who had a sex change in the 1980s decided after seven years that he hated being a woman, so he changed back--and now he’s on a mission to dissuade others from transitioning.
Charles Kane, nee Samantha Kane, nee Sam Hashimi, is happily engaged to a woman now, reported British newspaper the Daily Mail on Nov. 8, but after his first gender transition in 1987 he had a brief engagement to a man. Life as a woman did not agree with Kane--who at the time was known as Samantha Kane--because, the Mail reported, Kane "hated the way female hormones made him moody and emotional. Shopping bored him and sex was a disappointment."
In 2005, Kane went in for the surgeries needed to return her to her former male physiology. He then experienced rejection from the women he attempted to court, until he met fiancée Victoria, who told the paper that, "unlike other men... he truly understands women’s needs."
Kane also addressed this, telling the Daily Mail, "I keep Samantha in a little compartment in my brain, which I occasionally visit when I want to understand how Victoria is feeling." Added Kane, "Before, when I was Sam Hashimi, if a woman tried to talk to me about her emotions she may as well have been speaking to a Martian.
"Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and I’m in the unique position of having taken a very long trip to Venus before returning to Mars," Kane quipped.
"My father Peter is a very open-minded person, and so is my mother, Coral, because my older brother Matthew is openly gay," Victoria told the newspaper. "When I told them about Charles, they went: ’Oh, right, that’s interesting.’ "
Kane attributes his initial desire to transition to the trauma of his first marriage ending and the separation from his children that followed. But now, Kane says of his 24-year-old son, "We get on very well and my son, having been confused by my sex change, is now very accepting of me. He is a great guy and looks just like me?.?.?.? when I was Sam Hashimi."
Kane has decided that transitioning was the wrong choice for him--and he’s convinced that it’s wrong for others, as well. "Based on my own experiences, I believe sex-change operations should not be allowed, and certainly not on the NHS," he told the Daily Mail. "People who think they are a woman trapped in a male body are, in my opinion, completely deluded. I certainly was. I needed counseling, not a sex-change operation."
The website for the Christian Institute noted that in 2004, Kane accused a National Health Service-affiliated physician, Dr. Russell Reid, of persuading him to go through with his first gender reassignment surgery. Three years later, Reid was found guilty of misconduct for prematurely putting patients through gender reassignment surgery.
The site noted that transgendered children are now asking to be allowed to transition before puberty. Medically, the outcome is much more successful if, prior to puberty, a transgendered child is put on the course of hormones that will shape his or her body during adolescence as part of the transition. Many transgendered people describe life-long and deep-seated feelings of belonging to the opposite sex despite their anatomical genders, and those who transition often say that they experience a profound sense of relief when they are finally in the "right" body.
But on occasion individuals who transition express regret, and for this reason a screening process is part of the normal transitioning experience. To buy time, some physicians now recommend that children who express a wish to be the opposite sex be given treatments to delay the onset of puberty.
Kane has concluded that physical transformation is not the answer. He is now seeking funding to make a documentary film, which he would title The Sex Change Delusion.
"In many ways I see myself a victim of the medical profession," Kane told the Daily Mail. "I became a woman. It didn’t work for me. I changed my mind. It’s only a fool that doesn’t change their mind when they know they are wrong. It took tremendous courage to say: ’No, sorry, I will change back.’ "
Readers of the Daily Mail article expressed outrage that Kane would presume that all others wishing to transition would share his confusion on the issue. "You should read Sex and Gender by Richard Stoller who includes the story of a transsexual who nicked hormones from his mother and started taking them and ended up having a female puberty and NEVER regretted it," one comment read. "Given that the test of a true TS is that they feel that way from birth, most of them if given the choice won’t regret it."
"More attention seeking from Charles Kane," another reader declared. "Just because YOUR ’sex change’ was a ’delusion’ doesn’t mean it is for everyone who needs to have ’sex change’ treatment. It wasn’t right for YOU--why waste your life campaigning against treatment that works for the majority of people who have it? If you’re so happy with your renewed life as a man why not just get on with living it instead of trying to sabotage other peoples happiness. Nobody made you have a sex change, start taking responsibility for your own actions instead of blaming the medical professionals and NHS who help legitimately transgendered people."
Wrote another, "My opinion as a transgender waiting for her operation is that my journey is very good for me. I see that in all aspect of life and my friends confirms that, too. No turn around and no regrets. BUT i had done some 4 years of counseling and groups and healthcare hell before i was even allowed to caress the concept of surgery."
Another posted, "I’m just thankful I’m merely an ordinary old transvestite. In my time I’ve passed on the street and in social activities, love dressing and making up to look younger (I suppose that could be regarded as typical female??) and colorful and smelling nice. But I’ve also enjoyed, and still enjoy, being a man. Maybe I’ve found the solution of getting the best of both worlds, and without surgery or a lot of counseling! My only regret is that I didn’t indulge many years ago, when I could have been fashionable and pretty!"